Not tonight dear!

Another challenge.. a different kind.. given by Aame, on my ‘Challenge Accepted‘ page. Her challenge is :

Willful denial of sex, including that on the first night after wedding, by either of the spouse amounts to cruelty and can be a ground for dissolution of the marriage, the Delhi high court has ruled. Your views?

The court said, that willful denial of sex, by either of the spouse, for no real reason, is a ground for divorce. The court awarded divorce to the couple in question in the case as the wife did not argue to the fact that she denied her husband sex, even on the first night.

So, what do I think of this?

Let me look at this one legally.. Cruelty is defined under the IPC as Any act that causes death, hurt or wrongful confinement, whether physical or mental, or which leads the person to commit suicide, is cruelty. So, does wishful denial of sex fit in?

Looking at it in a strict sense, no it does not! But as is the case with any law, it is made not by any text but by it’s interpretation in real cases. So, yes, this can be cruelty. It is hard to imagine a healthy marriage without sex, not just because sex is a necessary part of marriage, but more so because a marriage in which one of the partners is not ready to be physically intimate with the other, seems to smell of something unhealthy between the two.

In my personal opinion, I do believe that sex is an important part of marriage. However, when it comes to divorce, even if divorce has to be allowed in such cases, it should not be on the grounds of cruelty but on mutual consent. Recently, by an amendment in the marriage laws in India, mutual consent of both parties has been made a valid ground for divorce. So, if the parties are not happy physically together. Or even if one party is not, it has to be understood between them that all is not well and that if the need arises, they should part ways. It is better than one pressing charges of cruelty on the other. Intimacy in a couple cannot be forced, and therefore the lack of it should not be labelled cruelty but the reasons behind the same should be understood and given importance to.

Let’s not play the blame game in Court but aim at finding a solution. Willful denial of sex is a valid ground for divorce, but not for labeling it as cruelty. That’s what I think. What about you?

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by Janhvi on April 22, 2012  •  Permalink
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The special interview

This is a special interivew from the ones I conducted, because the host blogger is a kiddo. And have I ever mentioned how much I love adults who are kiddos. :) (coz am 1 myself).

@Kismitofeebar – Yes, this is my trying to save myself from being killed by you. :p Am so sorry I missed your’s.

Here it is people, a special interview of a blogger new even to me, but a wonderful blogger nevertheless… no two ways in that. I give you all Kismitoffebar.

1. Full Name : kismitoffeebar (seriously, that blood flows in me given the fact that I emptied kismibars instead of milk)

2. Blog Name : kismitoffeebar (no prizes for guessing why).

3. Your one post that is your best till date (as per you) : They are all my babies and oh yes, did I mention that I am new here?

4. What motivates you most in life – life and everyone and everything that comes along with it.Call me cheesy but I live for simple moments. And my ambition is to have as many simple happy moments as possible. And be cause for for as many as I can.

5. What is that that pulls you down – Gravity. I promise. Like, pinky swear. Else, who’d miss the opportunity to fly?

6. What is your one most precious dream – To always always love and live life. To keep people around me happy.Yes, they both are one and the same.

7. Who is the one most important person to you – I love my people way too much to rank them. So, ptbhtbhththbth :)

8. Is your life today how you had imagined it just 5 years ago – No. It wouldn’t be called life if you could plan everything.

9. Are you the same as the you 10 years ago – My better half says that I grow more and more kiddo-er with every passing day. and I am NOT complaining :)

10.What is your present profession – I am a medical professional specialied in disabilities. So, I work for health and communication of persons with special needs. Oh, I can write zillion posts on this :)

11. Which other profession would you liked to be in – I’d like to be the President. Or Ruskin Bond. Ruskin Bond is an altogether new profession. I can’t tell you how much I love the man. — ooooo–

12. What part of nature fascinates you the most -It is and has to be one entity. I don’t believe in parts.The aspect that fascinates me is how it rejuvenates itself and reinvents itself endlessly, as though it were trying to teach us something.

13. Do you believe in fate – Yes. I do. We do our best, God does the rest!!!!!!!!!!!!!

14. If you had to change one thing about your past, what would it be – The duration of my childhood.I spoke your thoughts no? I knew it man !

15. If you could see into the future, what would you like to get to know – Nothing. I like it one day at a time, each one a surprise. I don’t have the courage or willingness to see into the future.

16. Is there anyone who you believe deserves more or less attention than you are giving him/her – I wish I could could give everyone around me more attention. It bothers me to be not able to do that to my heart’s content. But, well.

17. Which is that one moment in life that can never be outdone in terms of how happy it made you – Everytime I am happy, I do some stupid giggly wiggly childish things. They are all equally happiness inducing. But I particularly treasure those where I have laughed with loved ones or seen the greenery around me that overwhelmed me. And some amazing writing and music. See? I knew I was not heading anywhere.

18. The most precious gift you ever received -Is this a trick question or what?

19. The cutest sight you have seen (first hand, not on the internet) – Please please can I name 4? My li’l bro used to have this small li’l school bag and he used to wear it and look so so cute that I used to feel like putting him in my pencil box and carry him everywhere, my better half looks at me with those wide eyed puppy dog eyes and I wish to put him inside my handbag and carry him around, my ma looks so amazingly cute when she tries to sms that I feel like crying and my pa trying to create many accounts including facebook and sending me invites at wee hours with his lovey expression.

20. The one place you would like to settle at, in life – At home. I want to be home in India. I pray that I get to do it by God’s Grace!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And as part of this special program, am putting here the post I think is her best till date – The bun man

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