Guest Post by Shirley – Thought can reveal the identity and ideas

I was pleasantly surprised the other day, to get a mail from this fabulous thinker and wrote, Shirley, who was interested in writing a guest post for my humble blog. How could I refuse! 

Though the article was over quiet some time back, it has been my absence of time, that it is being posted today. I hope you all like the thought expressed in the article because it is the thoughts that reveal the identity and ideas. Handing over from the next line to the actual article…..


                             Topic: Thought can reveal the identity and ideas.


Human thought processes are indeed unique and incomparable, very much like digital signatures or fingerprints, which may not be similar even for identical twins born from the same womb, perhaps at the same time. Essentially, our thoughts turn into logical and patterned thought process, which in turn gives rise to ideas, ideas to words, and finally words to print. The human thought process between germination of a thought and its final appearance on print is performed in just seconds, or even nano seconds but the process has taken months or even years to develop and perfect. Since people are unique species, our thought processes and the way thought traffic is handled is also inimitable and personable. Indeed our thoughts speak a great deal about our identity and also our ideas.


How do thoughts reveal identity:

Most of our thought process could be quantitatively analyzed and surmised since although our individual reactions to situations may be different, the thought process behind them is essentially similarly processed by our psyches and conscious minds. For instance, if somebody were to ask another man in order to test his thought process – Imagine that you are travelling alone in a dense forest and a roaring tiger jumps in front of you, what would you do?

There are three options to choose from:

  1. Stare at the tiger straight at his eyes and make it slink back and vanish
  2. Run back the way you came from
  3. Wait for the hungry beast to devour you

Only a few of us would have the courage to answer it as answer 1. Most of us would not stare back at a tiger, even if it were safety ensconced in a zoo cage. So the minority which said that they would stare back are either lying, or are indeed intrepid and brave people who thrive on challenge and risks like meeting tigers during evening walks.

The second solution is where most humans would belong. In the choice between “Fight or Flight”, flight mode dominates. This shows an escapist attitude, an inability to take risks or thrive on challenges and. cannot be accepted for b-school acceptance since this candidate cannot be considered as management material.

Finally, coming to the third option, while it does denote patience and perseverance, spending time together with a living tiger, it also reveals a mindset of fatalism and acceptability without even the semblance of a fight. Such a person could best serve in a parish as church bell attendant?

How could our lives be improved ad exalted?

Essentially, human thoughts and attitudes could be seen to be of two kinds- those of us who are pro active and need to have needed to exercise command over people, circumstances and destiny and the second, who passively allow destiny to take charge of their lives. The former forces issues while the latter is forced down by issues. Indeed the thoughts and its ultimate actions do reveal the identity and personality of the thinker and doer.

Coming to ideas also, there is needed to ascribe two personality types – one who is able to get the best out of a bad bargain. These people hope for the best but also prepare for the worst situation. The other types of thinkers are those who allow circumstance to control and dictate terms to them. These are very evident from their thought process which is either filled with optimism, hope and brightness, seeing the goodness in every situation and making best use of them, or secondly, the brooders, pessimists and negative minded who only see the dark side of life and who are thus comsigned only to darkness throughout their lives through their own voluntary dark thinking processes.



Indeed humans are the makers and creators of their own destinies and the use of positive, constructive and humane attitude and thought process would add happiness and dispel the darkness or vice versa.


Author Bio:

I am Shirley Burrill, involved with USA essay writing companies that provide the platform for students to improve and clarify their doubts about the descriptive essay writing ideas. I am always focused on creative thinking.


One sided

Love, if it is true, is always one sided.

I do not mean to say here that two people cannot be in mutual love of each other. That, though in actuality rare, is possible.

What I want to convey is, that if one truly loves the other person, it is going to be one sided. The feeling one has for the other is not going to be dependent on how the other feels. For the lack of a better word, one may say that all love, in essence, is platonic.

If it weren’t so, and if in fact we were dependent on reciprocity to truly love someone, it would become a mere transaction. just a “give and take“. No?

Sounds complex and unreal!  Understand this by this example.

Pick up any person that you know you truly love. Husband/ Wife/ Parent/ Sibling/ Child……. Now, if that person were to not love you back, for whatever reasons; keeping aside the hurt/ anger etc of not being loved back, would you really stop loving that person? If your sibling told you he/she was indifferent towards you, you may be upset, but would that knowledge that there is no reciprocity, end your love for that person.


Think hard…. And here’s the clincher… if your answer to my above question is that lack of desired emotion from the other end would actually hold a place in deciding your emotion for that person; it’s a sad state of affairs for you and that particular relation. Not from the side of that person, but from your side.

Now I’ll move on to the next level question. That is, if you agree with what I said above.

Now that we know that love for the other person is not dependent on them, why is it so important that the other person reciprocate. Yes, it would be great if he/she did. But what we end up doing is making ourselves miserable if that is not the case. Why?

That person did not ask you to love them. If you, by your own free will, decided that you loved them, do they not get the free will to decide not to have that emotion for you? It is funny how the persons we claim to love become culprits in our eyes if they decide to practice their free will. They have every right not to love you, to love someone else, or feel whichever way they deem fit.

However, my focus is not on that other person, it is on you (Person 1). We get sad, depressed, low etc when we find out that our emotions are only from our end. Now that we know that it isn’t actually of consequence for our emotion that how the other person feels, be happy and grateful that you got a chance to live in the emotion.

An emotion as positive as love, and we blemish it by sighting it as reason for our sadness……Ironical!!!

Words have no meaning

A word, by itself, has No meaning at all.

Here’s a word : Dog!

All of you readers must have thought of ‘a dog’, but at the same time no two dogs would be the same. While some of you might have thought of a pet dog, while some others of a street dog. Even in these two categories, there are millions sub categories. Very rarely will two people take the exact same meaning of a word or set of words.

Here’s an example : He said he sat at the back in the theater.

For all of us, ‘at the back’ would mean towards the rear end, but where exactly is different to each one of us.

Why is it important to be exact, you ask me. The examples I gave are very simple ones, think of a situation where someone says a set of sentences to you. With each word having a different detail to it’s meaning for you both, do you now how much possibility there is of a mis-communication?

We say that the root of all evil is that the people involved are unable to convey exactly what it is that they wish to say. Do you now see how it starts.

But why is it so? It is because we understand each word we hear on the basis of our life experiences. When someone talks of pain, for example, we perceive it in a sense in which we have experienced pain. So even a word as general as pain, is different for us all.

Our life experiences dominate each and everything we hear or say. So, the next time you are saying something to someone, or someone says something to you… be more precise, or ask that person to be more precise. 🙂

That Last Night

This post has been published by me as a part of the Blog-a-Ton 26; the 26th Edition of the online marathon of Bloggers; where we decide and we write. To be part of the next edition, visit and start following Blog-a-Ton. The topic for this month is ‘That Last Night’.

The topic got me thinking to write on the last nights of the girl fetus and a girl child before they are killed because of their gender.

It was but that night
I killed her, the night  when I
aborted my child.

She begged for her life
pleading to live, it was then
that her dad killed her.

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Grown up?

Yesterday I had a thought. It came very suddenly out of nowhere in particular and decided to stay. And as thoughts that stay and make me think, is what this blog is all about, I decided to share it with you all.

It was about growing up, or have we grown up. What is it that tells us we are no longer teenagers or kids. What is it that distinguishes our minds.

Some others, though, can treat this post as a test to see if they have actually grown up (no offence to anyone in particular – just that a person in my vicinity is older than me, but more  idiotic than a baby)[again, not saying babies are idiotic, but a grown up thinking like one is].

Anyways, going on, to this short post….

You know you have grown up if:

  1. Not every meeting with a person of the other gender is a date.
  2. It is not necessary that either you like that person form the other gender or (s)he likes you, a guy and a girl can be just friends, really.
  3.  You don’t think being ‘innocent’ and unknowing of wordly things is cute or shows your simplicity. Be real, this is a world where you need to know things.
  4. You don’t blush like an idiot when you see someone you like. So, yes, you like him/her, no reason to go bonkers.
  5. It is perfectly normal to talk to strangers without thinking of it as “oh my god! how will I?”
  6. Not everything new that you hear or learn has to be shouted out and told to everyone instantly.
  7. It is normal to sometimes not be the best.
  8. Hurt is an essential and omnipresent part of life.
  9. No relationship or person is perfect, live with it.


10. LIfe/ people is/are NOT fair, no point cribbing about it.

This is my list of factors. Your’s could be different or contradictory to mine. Share if you want to, I would appreciate that.

P.S. A poem you should not miss – ख्वाब… My Dream!!

Thing to do before I die

Seeing a post regarding the same on another blog – here, I decided to make my own list. As this may become extremely boring for those of you who can’t figure out why they should read someone’s wish list (though I love doing it – it tells me a lot about that person), here’s something to motivate you, and this can be done by the others too: Read the list and see how many of these do you share with me. Then let me know how many and which ones as a comment. 🙂

1. Visit my birthplace

2. Visit my ancestral hometown

3. Live apart from my family

4. Learn how to swim

5. Scuba diving

6. Get out of an awkwards situation with “his” family/friends without making a fool of myself.

7. Win a recognized blog award

8. Marry in pomp

9. Get pregnant

10. Have a baby girl

11. Be able to gift my brother his dream bike

12. Build a house for my parents

13. Live in a hill station

14. Learn Salsa and Ball dance

15. Play the keyboard for a large audience

16. Learn one foreign language well

17. Visit Venice, Paris

18. Be with “him” alone on a beach

19. Win tambola (housie) once

20. Sky diving

21. Raise atleast 3 different pets at the same time

22. Ride in a personal limo

23. Ride in a personal helicopter

24. Take surprise gifts home for everyone

25. Fall head over heals in love

26. Have a bff who knows me better than me myself

27. Get 3 ‘Ace’ while playing ‘teen patti’

28. Cook a whole meal for a huge gathering

29. Forgive all my ‘enemies’

30. Have my name mentioned in a magazine

31. Become very slim

32. Publish my novel

33. Get him to get my name tatooed

34. Tatoo his name

35. Get 1crore viewers here

36.Have a barbeque verandah at home

37. Slap someone hard across the face

38. Get very close to death and come back safe

39. Scream at the people unnecessarily talking in a movie hall

40. Participate in a game show

41. Win a game show

42. Meet Amitabh Bachchan

43. Watch a movie with “him” (my boyfriend and not Big B) in the PVR Gold Class

44. Watch a movie shooting

45. Work in the same town as my bff

46. Be able to buy myself anything my younger sister or younger cousins put a hand on

47. Organize a wedding

48. Cry at my wedding

49. Get pampered without any limits for a week

50. Learn to speak up if I dislike something

51. Be a part of a movie

52. Be able to remove all saas bahu serials from television

53. Watch the old cartoon network again

54.  Write my autobiography

55. Write another person’s biography

56.Name a star after him

57. Sponsor a child’s education

58. Spend a whole day with a very small baby, doing nothing else

59. Receive a surprise party

60. Write a time capsule

61. Meet a great author in person

62. See the shooting of a reality show

63. Meet Neil Pattrick Harris

64. Play at a casino in Las Vegas

65. Romantically dance with him in the rain

66. Spend a week with him with no worry of any work or anything else

67. Finish a KFC chickenbucket by myself

68. Eat a red chilli without water

69. Visit Disney Land

70. Laugh so hard I start crying

This list is by no means exhaustive and I will keep adding to it as and when I remember…. but this is my list uptill now. Now that you’ve come this far, do drop by a comment on your own wishlist. 🙂

Dark Beauty

Dark, or black, is considered to be inclining towards the negative side of things. It is often considered to be the ‘opposite’ of white. As white often stands for purity, black is seen to mean impure, though it is not expressly said (mostly), this is how it is taken. ‘The Dark Ages’, ‘Buri nazar wale tera muh kala’ etc. are two of the many examples portraying that this word is taken in the negative sense.
A few simple questions – do colours have opposites? do concepts have opposites? is black really negative?

As much as we may deny it, the term black has stereotypes attached to it. I heard one today itself, “why do you wear black so often? It has negative vibes.” The answer to the question, though, ‘I wear black often because I look slimmer in it’. :p

Moving on, I have the following brief arguments to put forth:
1. Does attributing purity to white attribute impurity to it’s “opposite”?
2. Hypocrites, as we are, in everything, we fail to realize that the definition of white will cease to exist without the definition of black.
3. As my third and final argument, I give you the following PPT. You might contend that the main beauty of the slides come from the lights, but could the lights be this beautiful minus the darkness of the night.
The Beauty Of Night

My arguments/ contentions are in no way exhaustive. It would be great if you all contributed either to my side of the argument or against me.

I just realized (17/11/11) that I had written a post once – The Darker Us – in that I had done exactly what I describe as wrong in this post. That was wrong on my part.