“Tumhen Koi Aur Dekhe, To Jalataa Hai Dil
Badii Mushkilon Se Phir, Sambhalataa Hai Dil
Kyaa Kyaa Jatan Karaten Hain, Tumhen Kyaa Pataa”
Let’s face it…. we all have such green eyes (metaphorically) at some point of time or the other. This post, however, is about those times when we get jealous of our partner (or who we want as a partner) with another person of our gender.
We have all, at some point thought of:
- Killing that parson
- Hitting him/her
- Going over and claiming our right on our partner
- Proving to ourselves how we are better than that person
- Finding excessive nooks in that person
And why not? It’s our partner (crush), why should the other person come into the equation…. right? Wrong.
Just because that person is our partner, it does not give us a right to own him/her. (S)he has every right to talk to others, spend time with others, and even like another person. We like someone for their qualities and nature. Should being in a relationship change this? No; and it doesn’t, we just suppress it inside us.
Take an example,
X, a single guy, meets Y, who he likes because of her nature and looks. This is perfectly normal.
Now, X, a guy committed to Z, meets Y. Why can he not still like her? Is he in a relationship or in prison?
The problem today is that the monster of jealousy has become a norm, so much so, that what were supposed to be feelings of jealousy earlier, are now feelings of normalcy. ‘I cannot like her/him or be attracted towards her/him as I am in a relationship’. This is nothing but the jealousy of the other partner which has turned into a norm, not just for this one person, but for a society as a whole.
Please people, stop treating your partner as a property which you own and which no-one else can talk-to, like, or flirt with.
I am proud of myself that though I feel jealous (a lot) when HE talks of/to other girls, I have never stopped him, as he is as much a free citizen of this country as he was before we were together. And it’s the same from his side.