A lot has been said (by others and I) on love and romance. Keeping that aside, this post is about how important the compatibility factor is in love. And if ever one of them had to be chosen, which is more important, love or compatibility. (And here the question is in reference to the marriage factor)
I know, that the ideal situation is being compatible with the person you love, but what if you are compatible with a person you do not love as a partner and love a partner who is not really compatible. Now what do you do?
Do you choose to hope that you will some day gain compatibility with your partner, or do you go for compatibility and hope that love blossoms some day between the two people in question (after all that’s what happens in arrange marriages)?
Choosing compatibility would mean to understand the life partner and to be understood, which is one essential in any long term relation. It would also mean that there would be fewer disagreements, meaning a happier relation. But can that alone survive a relation where there is no love (at least as yet) in the relation? Should it be left to hope of love arising in the future? Aren’t the stakes too high – a loveless lifetime relationship?
On the other hand, there is love, which is said to be the foundation stone of any relationship. Love in the relation would mean that even if the two are incompatible (at least as yet), they might change for each other and becoming adjusting. Is it a gamble worth playing – a lifetime relation without being compatible?
One of my friends is facing this issue in her life and when I was asked for advice, it got me thinking, so I decided to consult my readers (you all).